Let it be…

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. -Lao Tzu

Life is kinda like the Borg:)
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Shame thrives on confusion and misunderstanding. When you illuminate shame by talking about it, its power diminishes.

Once we have been trained to be ashamed of ourselves, we don’t need active confirmation from others. We supply it on their behalf. We assume others are disappointed in us, even those we love. We fill in the blanks between us and others with the most damaging possible messages; even when those messages are not their intention at all. It is this willingness, this need to fill the blanks with self-condemnation and shame, that can collapse relationships and destroy marriages. It leads to all manner of self-destructive behaviors. Shame fuels itself, becomes its own self-fulfilling prophecy. And no one, no matter how kind or supportive they are, can sustain support for someone who has succumbed to the voice of shame.

Shame strips us of our natural sense of self-preservation and replaces it with a willingness to do anything to get off the arbitrary and hateful hot seat as defined by whatever bully might seek to shame us. Some children see their parents that way. Its a chilling thought and should give us all pause.

 

For adults, shame can be about everything; our sexual selves, our failures, our imperfect bodies, our difficult pasts, our losses, the relentless litany of our regrets. Shame can leech the joy out of life. It is a loop of self-destructive internal dialogues that blind us to what is good and magical and strong in us. Shame is a sure fire recipe for depression, alcoholism, drug abuse, divorce, alienation and despair.
Now for the good news! There is a simple and powerful answer for dealing with humanity’s culture of shame: TALK ABOUT IT.
Shame is deeply personal. We can not know what others might view as shaming unless we talk with them about it. And this includes our friends, wives, husbands, parents and children.

Shame thrives on confusion and misunderstanding. When you illuminate shame by talking about it, its power diminishes. This is the first step to creating a culture of discovery and compassion.

Passing on…”When you leave me I will not cry for you. I will run into the strongest wind I can find and welcome you home.”

We are not created or destroyed, we are constantly transferred, shifted and renewed. Everything we are is given to us. Death does not come when a body is too exhausted to live. Death comes, because the brilliance inside us can only be contained for so long. We do not die. We pass on. We pass on the lightning burning through our throats. when you leave me I will not cry for you. I will run into the strongest wind I can find and welcome you home.” -Michael Lee.

Anonymous quotes: Yielding to fate.

Finding perseverance in the face of life’s challenges can feel impossible at times but we all have an inner truth that can lead us to the right opportunities if we can only stop, breath, and listen for a moment. This week’s anonymous quote reminds us we can trust ourselves to yield to the fate that presents itself.

“SEEK ALWAYS, for by searching for one thing you will surely find another – this is the path to wisdom.”

ANONYMOUS QUOTES: Defying the ‘natural law of entropy’.


I have always admired those who believe in defying the ‘natural law of entropy’ and resisting the seemingly inevitable decline into the gradual disorder of the universe. These wise ones know that creation can come from destruction. This weeks quote is dedicated to all you warriors of optimism out there. Long may you reign!:)

“When things evolve to link up perfectly and the universe defies it’s own law of chaos, it effortlessly moves from simple chaos to complex order.”

Famous last words…On my death bed, will I regret doing this – or will I regret not doing this?


When fear paralyzes us, making it almost impossible to trust our decisions, we can pause and ask ourselves, “On my death bed, will I regret doing this – or will I regret not doing this?” I’ve always thought this was an important question to ask ourselves if we want some peace at the end of our days.

Here are some documented last words said by some very famous people. I wonder what regrets they had to confront in the end?

“Go away! Last words are for fools who haven’t said enough!”-Karl Marx (A Prussian born philosopher and the creator of Marxism. Died on March 14, 1883 from bronchitis)

“Shoot straight, you bastards.”-Breaker Morant (One of the first people in British military history to be found guilty of war crimes, and sentenced to death on February 27, 1902)

“If any of you have a message for the Devil, give it to me quick. I’m about to meet him.”-Lavinia Fisher (Reported to have been the first female serial killer in United States history. She was hanged on February 18, 1820)

“You will show my head to the crowd. It is worth seeing.”-Georges Danton (A leading figure in the early stages of the French Revolution. He was guillotined on April 5, 1794)

“Damn it! Don’t you dare ask God to help me!” Joan Crawford (An American film and television actress. She died of a heart attack on May 10, 1977)

Asking ourselves the question, “In the end, will I regret doing this – or will I regret not doing this?”, helps us face our fears and be fully self aware…

So, even when you’re scared, set those important boundaries in your life that you know are best for your peace of mind. Contribute and help others every chance you get. And say “I love you” every single time you feel it. You won’t regret it. I promise:)