Can our memories even be trusted?

A GREAT THING TO KEEP IN MIND IF YOU’RE HAVING TROUBLE LETTING GO OF THE PAST…

The concept of ‘Reconsolidation Memory Updating’: Our memory is actually like a telephone game. Our brain distorts memories a little more each time we remember them. So, when we think about a memory we are not recalling the original event but actually remembering the last time we had a reminiscence of the respective memory. While remembering we also tend to “rationalize” the memory elements that we could not make sense of at the time by inventing new causalities. During re-remembering, highly surprising details may lead to more rational story changes, and unsurprising details may lead to more interesting distortions.

Basically, don’t identify too heavily with the emotional charge you may have on a memory. Let go of the fear that the past will repeat itself, and the pain you may have about those who have wronged you. You’re only hurting yourself, and what’s the point of that?🤷‍♀️